On The Friendzone

For the past 10 years, I've lamented the fact that I can't seem to find that sweet spot between one-night-stand and the friendzone.  

I've been frustrated that every time I develop romantic feelings for a fellow, he never sees me as anything but a friend.  And then I give up, because society tells me that once you're in the friendzone, you're SOL.

First of all, that's a problem,  because it's robbed me of potentially good male friends (because I DO think men and women can be friends). But that's a discussion for another day....

More importantly, though,  I've come to the realization that I WANT to be in the friendzone. I want to be friends before romance.  I believe that it's so important to have that foundation of genuine companionship before adding sex into the mix.

Now, I think that attraction is there or not from the get-go, but I also think that romance doesn't need to be the focus for a relationship to develop. Is that the view of the population at large? Probably not. Are there others that think the same?  There must be!

Now, you may be wondering why the sudden concern about the friendzone. Well, I was watching "Community" and thinking that my ideal relationship would be basically what Troy and Abed have,  but with romance added in, haha!

And something tells me that I wouldn't be able to pick up some bro in a bar and invite him to build a blanket fort with me.

So rather than worry about being banished to the friendzone, why not embrace it? I'll make more friends, and eventually (and hopefully) find a guy with whom I can build blanket forts, go to InspectiCon, watch cartoons, and play in the Dreamatorium AND where he still wants to kiss me afterwards, ha ha!